By: Naami Resnick, M.S., LGPC, NCC
In a completely unanticipated turn of events, the introverts dream has come true. We have been instructed that our health and public safety requires that we stay home and do not socialize. Several days into it, some of us are realizing it may not quite live up to expectations. Many of us are missing our routines and the small comforts of everyday life. At the same time, we are already flooded with helpful resources. Suggestions like set up a routine, continue to get dressed, and do some yoga abound. Parents are tasked with giving over intricate lesson plans, often to 3-4 children. While the setting has changed, we are still being tasked with many things we “should” be doing. I’m not here to tell you to disregard these suggestions. They are helpful, relevant, and eventually will help us all lean into our new current reality.
However, the speed with which this has escalated has taken all of us by surprise. You might notice yourself feeling lethargic, even though you are sleeping more than ever. You may be snappy and short tempered with your partner and have less patience for your kids. You may notice feelings of anxiety, depression, and anger come and go at unexpected times. This would be a good time to cut yourself some slack. As a community, we have been hit with many rapid changes, that are still changing by the day. We have been uprooted from our comfort zones and routines. Take this time to notice how you are feeling, without judgement. It might be helpful to write it down, but just noting it to yourself is effective as well. It might be helpful to call a friend and have a real conversation, but if that feels like a chore to you, you do not have to do it today. Now is a great time to try and slow down. Tuning into your feelings can feel like a luxury during the usual hustle and bustle of our routine.
Now, when the hustle and bustle has subsided a little, you can relax your expectations of yourself and the “should” be doings. Acknowledge that this is a tough time and taking a few days to settle in is fine. There’s no need to be perfectly adjusted –we’re all in the same boat. This a time when compassion is necessary and nowhere is it more needed then towards ourselves.
Naami Resnick, M.S., LGPC, NCC is a JCS Family Navigator
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